You really don't need to do anything. Just observe what's going on inside without blaming it.
To change the pattern from being upset when you feel lost, have pain, worries, anger, sadness, do this.
Take a moment every day, 5- 10 min, put one hand on your heart and the other on your belly, close your eyes, observe what's going on inside, if it's good or challenging, and give it compassion as if it is a child or anyone else you wish to give comfort. In this way you give the energy space to flow and change.
Try it, and tell me how you feel.