A small shift that helped me - #3

Difficult emotions aren't moral failures. This realization led to a small shift that helped me stop the endless debate about whether or not I should be feeling something.

Because that's a place where I would often get stuck:

Should I be this frustrated? Should I still miss my old life? Shouldn't I be more grateful? And most of all, shouldn't I be happier than this?

The result was that I spent a lot of energy arguing with feelings that were already there. Eventually, I started looking at things differently. Instead of asking whether a feeling was justified, I started asking what it was trying to tell me.

Sometimes the answer was that I needed rest.

Sometimes it was that I'd neglected an important part of myself.

Sometimes it was simply that I was going through a difficult season.

Either way, the conversation became much more useful.

The feelings were still there. But I stopped treating them like evidences that something was wrong with me.

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A small shift that helped me - #3