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Navigating Toxic Family Members During the Holidays
✨How are YOU doing it this year?
This topic is trending after Oprah’s “No Contact” podcast episode — people are finally realizing that ghosting toxic relatives during the holidays isn’t disrespect…it’s self-protection.
The holidays can be beautiful — but they can also be heavy, triggering, or downright unsafe if you come from dysfunction, emotional neglect, or spiritual suppression. For many of us, walking into certain family spaces feels like stepping back into an old version of ourselves we’ve already outgrown.
I get it. I lived it.
I was the literal Black sheep of my family — me and my twin brother were adopted by a strict, conservative, narcissistic, religious white family in upstate New York. I know what it’s like to be left out of plans, misrepresented, the center of gossip, or spiritually policed. And as a Spiritualist, you don’t always need to be in the room to feel what’s being said behind closed doors. IYKYK. 😉
Because of all that, I’ve limited contact with my adopted family. And honestly? It’s been one of the most peaceful decisions I’ve ever made.
If you’re navigating something similar this holiday season, here are a few grounded, real suggestions to protect your peace:
1. Don’t Go.
Sometimes the most spiritually aligned action is absence — not out of spite, but out of self-care, safety, and sanity.If being around certain people drains you, destabilizes you, or reactivates trauma, staying home is not avoidance… it’s healing.
You’re allowed to create new traditions that honor the person you’ve become.
2. Limit Interactions.
If you do go, give yourself a time limit. A boundary. A plan.
✔ “I can stay for one hour.”
✔ “I’ll leave by 6.”
✔ “No overnight visits.”
When my kids were little, this saved us. We had grandparents on both sides and it always felt obligatory. So we had an “escape plan” every holiday — and honestly, it kept the peace. 🤣
You are not obligated to sit in dysfunction just because it’s December.
3. If You’re Going, Show Up Spiritually Protected.
This is non-negotiable — especially around toxic or draining family dynamics.
Your spiritual armor might look like:
✨ A cleanse before and after
✨ Grounding or deep breathing in the car
✨Wearing your crystals, oils, prayer, or protection jewelry
✨ Setting the intention: “Their energy is not mine to carry.”
And here’s a pro tip:If you’re there longer than 2 hours, use bathroom breaks to reset.I used to place my hands on the countertop, breathe deeply, and speak affirmations over myself until my spirit leveled out.It works. It can shift the entire atmosphere.
Sensitive people — especially neurodivergent, intuitive, or energetically open folks — feel everything.
Protection is not paranoia… it’s maintenance.
Most importantly:
Do not feel guilty for putting yourself first.
Narcissistic family systems thrive on you abandoning yourself — your worth, your intuition, your boundaries.
Starve that dynamic.Take your power, love, and self-respect back.Make new holiday memories that honor your healing, not their expectations.
So, How are you doing the Holidays?🎄✨
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