Your role as a parent is to hunt for coaching opportunities, not just react to your child’s performance.
Most parents only “coach” when their child messes up when something irritating happens and they feel the need to fix behaviour or habits.
If most of your coaching moments happen after mistakes or failures, your child will start linking “coaching” with something that is not enjoyable and helpful and you don't wont that, do you?
So how do you change that?
Start by getting clear on the mindset you want to develop in your child.
Then, write down where they’re likely to:
- struggle and fail,
- struggle but overcome,
- and absolutely smash it.
You might need to adjust or add some routines, like stretching together, building Lego, or doing something active side-by-side.
Now you can observe with intention, ask calibrated questions, and praise specific behaviours that show progress or mindset.
Most kids build their mindset by chance, we help them build it by choice.