There are seasons in a man’s life where he feels lost.
He doesn’t know exactly where he’s going.
He battles with his own thoughts, his own mental health, his own sense of direction.
In those seasons, it shows.
It shows in the way he carries himself.
It shows in how he reacts instead of responds.
And it shows in his relationships.
Because if a man hasn’t learned to lead himself — to stand grounded, to hold vision, to walk with purpose — then leading a woman becomes nearly impossible.
She doesn’t feel safe because he doesn’t feel safe in himself.
She can’t trust his direction because he doesn’t trust it either.
And often, behind that struggle is a lack of brotherhood.
No men to sharpen him.
No one to call him out when he drifts.
No brothers to stand shoulder-to-shoulder with him when the weight feels too heavy.
When a man learns to lead himself, everything changes.
He stops drifting. He builds clarity. He finds strength through his brothers. And from that place, he creates safety and stability for a woman to follow.
If you want to lead her, start by leading you.