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This is a fun little mental model I learned from Abraham Hicks.

What if, every time you encountered something you hate, whether it's a situation or a person or a plate of overcooked fish, you use that as information to get clear in what you actually want.

So that terrible job you took or ex you dated or disappointing launch? That was just data collection. A test, a tiny experiment. ☺️ Nothing is wrong, nothing is broken, you just got more information that will allow you to choose exactly what you want. It is an opportunity to direct all that energy towards the idea and the vision of what would actually be fun for you.

It's a nice little reframe because instead of getting annoyed or mad or collapsing, I think to myself...... I don't want this, I think I want the opposite of this.

And that is really useful data.

After college I thought I had to get a job, so I took a creative writing job at an ad firm. It was a great learning experience because..... I hated it. I wasn't writing for me. I had to work in an office so I was completely drained by the end of the day. Worse, I had a 1-hour commute!

I quit after 9 months. 9 months of gestating the idea of what I would want.

9 months to realize I would die of stress at this desk job and ask "What do I want instead?"

No to the desk job ... Maybe I can work from home.

No to writing for someone else ... Maybe I can

And No to a one hour commute!!!

I found a sales job that would allow me to work my own hours. Best of all, I wouldn't be stuck in an office.

It was a terrible job but it taught me a lot. And when I finally went to that hypnotherapist and had the session that changed my life, I was a bit clearer on what I really wanted.

Freedom of time. Lots of money. And the ability to spend my days writing.

2015 I allowed myself to chase the career I wanted, and I indie published. By then I was so much clearer I on what I actually wanted.

And then I kept refining until I ended up here. And I'm still refining! That's why my life will just get better and better.

The bad moments? That's information. That's data. And you can be grateful for it, especially if you use the data to make some new choices and take baby steps in the direction you want.

So it's actually awesome that I'm failing at my 10x goal. It sucks but I am getting data that will allow me to focus on what I actually want (tons of pre-orders easily) and take baby steps towards that (put up book 2 in the series now so it can easily collect pre-orders during book 1s massive launch).

What data are YOU getting right now?

Also this Cute pumpkin found on a walk believes in you!!! 🎃

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