Mar 29 • Newborn & Early Parenting
Why is my baby so unsettled… aren’t they supposed to just sleep?
This is one of the most common thoughts in those first few days - usually whispered at 2am while you’re pacing the room, wondering if you’re doing something wrong.
You’re not.
What you’re seeing is a brand new human adjusting to a brand new world.
The biggest transition of their life
Your baby has gone from a warm, constant, all-inclusive environment…to lights, noise, hunger, and space.
Inside, everything was automatic.
Outside, everything is new.
The shift no one warns you about....
Day 1 can feel calm.
Then day 2–3 hits and suddenly:
- Feeding feels constant
- Sleep is short and broken
- Baby wants to be held all the time
- Nights feel… a lot
This is often called second night syndrome - and it’s very normal.
❤️This is biology, not behaviour
Your baby isn’t being difficult.
They’re:
- Waking to feed often (tiny stomach)
- Learning to regulate themselves
- Looking for what feels familiar - you
Why they don’t like being put down
In the womb, they were never alone.
So the bassinet can feel big and unfamiliar.
❤️Being close helps them feel safe, settled, and regulated.
A quick reality check on sleep
Newborn sleep is:
- Short
- Light
- Unpredictable
So the noises, the wriggling, the constant waking… it’s all normal.
And you?
You might feel overwhelmed, emotional, unsure, exhausted — sometimes all at once.
❤️That’s part of this transition too.
What helps
Keep it simple:
- Hold your baby
- Feed responsively
- Lower expectations
- Let yourself be supported
You’re not getting it wrong
If your baby wants you constantly…If nights feel long…
You’re not failing.
❤️You’re both learning how to be here.
What have you heard about those first few days with a newborn - and are you wondering if it’s actually true?
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Why is my baby so unsettled… aren’t they supposed to just sleep?
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