✍️This is not an intro post, this is my story... (it's long, so take a sit to read it)

3 years ago I got into self-improvement. I had been 4 years into this massive chronic depression and turned out I could have gotten out of it the whole time in only two weeks of doing the right habits.

Meditation

Working out

Reading

Those 3 simple things, building for myself a timetable and developing enough discipline to souly focus on that and stop my bad habits (playing video-games, smoking and drinking enrgy drinks while listening to music, partying with my friends while taking drugs and drinking and social media addiction).

I did struggled with quitting smoking and listening to music while drinking energy drinks but that's a story for another day. The rest of them... all gone.

I had no idea of how the brain worked, how dopamine worked, how instant gratification was poison and delayed gratification was the pathway to a better life, a life of meaning and actual acomplishments.

I learned through self-improvement that disipline is just as painful as depression caused by instant gratification but you can either chose the pain that comes from growing or the pain that comes from decaying.

It doesn't matter if you don't make a choice, because not making it only guarantees the later.

After a while on self-improvement, naturally I started to look for a way to become productive beyond just taking care of my body, mind and soul. I wanted to grow, expand, build something, make money, contribute to the world, help other people.

I'm not going to lie, I tried a bunch of business models (I knew I wasn't going to get a random job or anything, I was going to make money with a business, preferably online, I had read The Millionaire Fastlane by MJ DeMarco, I knew some shit now!)... I tried SMMA but no local businesses would take my services and I found cold outreach so fucking hard and painful, so I quitted that. I tried buying medical equipment to sell to private clinics, that flopped as well. I tried software development but it took me months to develop the shittiest of apps and I got discouragued and quitted as well (I wasn't that good programming, it really takes a lot of time and effort to learn). I tried more business models than I can remember right now to be honest.

Any of them could have worked. I know what I was lacking back then. Consistency. But it's fine, I'm not unhappy with my story, I learned a lot from that.

I kind of stopped trying for a while. I thought simply about going to China and teach English there. I had heard it was a good job and I could save a lot of money doing that, maybe invest on the app I wanted to develop or something.

I was on a long-term relationship with a girl called Cristina from Spain. We were sort of living together, between her parent's house and my parent's house. We were planning to move together, either to China or going to Spain.

Turns out, after 3 years of relationship, right before out upcoming trip... she broke up with me.

She said she didn't see a future in me, she said she could not imagine me getting a job or providing for her or anything like that. Then she tried to soften it and all but I knew and she knew. I had grown so much through self-improvement that she actually was quite impressed by the fact that I took it like if it was nothing. I didn't make a scene, I didn't have a breakdown, I didn't behaved like a little bitch. Exactly how I would have behaved in the past.

I just took it as it was, thanked her for the time we spent together and the wonderful relationship we had had and despite my heart was fucking torned to pieces and all my plans, hopes and dreams for the future had being made ashes and dust I just walked out of her parent's house that night, said good bye to her with a final kiss and walked on... walked miles and miles.

I remember experiencing it like if it were a movie, like if it wasn't happening to me. I actually even laughted a little while I was walking. I knew two things:

1-I was going to suffer a lot after that weird shock effect weared off.

2-This was an amazing opportunity for me to grow. Nothing makes us grow more than pain and suffering and the freedom I had now, the amount of time (because a relationship it's very nice but quite time consuming) to focus on building something truly great, chasing my dreams, becoming SOMEONE.

Monk mode season started.

I shaved my long hair.

I locked in.

I started posting consistently at Youtube.

I got into self-improvement coaching, teaching guys how to fix their mental health, become discipline, find their purpose, set goals for themselves, reverse engineer those goals into daily action and solidify those into systems, groups of daily habits on their timetables. How to do affirmations to re-programe their unconscious mind, how to break through limkiting beliefs, how to dial in on their nutrition, their fitness, get consistent at the gym, meditate, read and start building their own online business and a personal brand through social media to fuel such business.

Since I didn't have a lot of traffic coming through my Youtube channel and I knew building a personal bran would take some time I started doing outbound sales right away to get my first coaching clients.

I am pretty persuasive and good on social skills. I like to talk, I like to teach and on top of that I do know to listen to people, ask the right questions, pay the sincere but key compliments, show appreciation and due praise where praise is deserved.

The very first day I got 3 clients.

My offer was also quite easy to sell.

I was going to do 1 on 1 coaching, for 1 hour daily, to get them their desired results (usually was to get out of depression or get disciplined and consistent at building their online businesses and scaling that up) for free for an entire month and then we could talk about how much I'd charge per month for that deal and they could actually witness the results and the quality of my work at the same time I could also get a nice testimonial to build some social proof.

I thought about uploading those first two testimonials with this post but I don't want to get banned for "self promotion" which is clearly not because I'm trying to tell my story here. But anyways, I won't do it because there's a lot of censorship going around on skool, I'm not saying it is going on on this one particularly but you get what I mean. I digress...

I had never worked so hard and passionately at anything in my life.

I was thrilled! I truly love healping guys achieving true growth, overcoming obstacules, getting discipline and hitting their goals. Gaining purpose and meaning on their lives and becoming stronger and more powerful versions of themselves. And this is just the beginning, I know that for a fact.

After that first free month I got my first paying customer. And I'm not going to lie, it wasn't much, 142 euros per month from one client. But I was truly happy because it was the first time I was making money in my life and on top of that online!

After that I kept coaching, I made some money and reinvested it all on buying a course and getting access to a sales community to improve my skills at sales even further and because I noticed I was starting to get comfortable and I knew that complacency was going to take me down the path of decadence.

I took that leap and it was the right decision. Investing in yourself, on mentorship, on courses, on networking opportunities and knowledge, on experiences as well... investing in yourself, I know it sound kind of like a cliché because so many gurus keep saying it but it's 100% true, it's the best investment you can make. It was for me, anyways.

I got some more clients because I had stopped looking for them.

After almost 6 monthos of coaching with my very first paying client I realized we had actually develop and amazing friendship. The same with my other younger apprentice. I still coach them to this day.

I had had a taste of how looking forn adventure and inviting chaos and stress into my own life had done for me and I wanted more. So I started debating on my head the idea of leaving my country and start traveling the world. Be on my own, despite I was yet not doing a lot of money, but I knew if I do something crazy like that I would then have to perform or die, no safety net, no parents or family to take care of me...

I debated it for months...

But I knew I had to do it or I'd end up regreating it for the rest of my life.

So I took the plundge once again!

I sold my house, closed my eyes, placed the finger on the map and...

Malaysia was my very first destination.

I jumped on a plane. More than 36 hours of flight.

Little before that I thought I had secured a gig at sales online through that sales' community that I mentioned before and I was actually thinking I'd make at least 1.5 to 2K per month, and that was enough to get started, especially on the South Asian East, where everything is so much cheaper than on Western countries.

I landed and despite I had supposudly secured the job, the owner of the SMMA woudn't do the onboarding call with me (we tried once before the trip but the internet was very bad that day, and I thought we would try again but he kept putting it off or not responding to my messages).

Somehow I made a bunch of dumb decisions, rented a car as soon as I landed, a very expensive one, ended up crashing it and paying for the dissaster (don't worry, nobody actually got hurt, and it wasn't that bad, except for my wallet).

I had a lot of troubles getting money out of my virtual debit cards (that's actually a really long story but for another day).

I even ended up spending some days without eating (which I'm not going to lie, it wasn't like a painful thing or a sacrifice or anything, I have the kind of mentality that doesn't allow hardship to really get to me, besides, fasting is really good and I was doing it once a week even before all of that, but I'm digressing again) while I had money on the fucking bank, but I coudn't use it... well, actually I was very dumb about it because I could, I just didn't know how. Later on I figured it out, and also solved my payment processing issues. It's not perfect now but way better than before, no doubt about it.

I don't want this post to turn into a book so I'll try to wrap it up now...

I found another gig on online sales for another marketing company, I kept doing coaching and Youtube (despite I still haven't gotten a lot of traction there).

I'm living on Malaysia, I was for a month in Kuala Lumpur, then moved to Malacca, right by the beach and soon I'll be flying to Bali, Indonesia to hang out with other digital nomad's and entrepeneurs and keep focusing on my self-improvement path and my journey towards helping young men to find meaning and purpose, hit their goals, build a tribe of men into self-improvement and leave a long-lasting legacy behind me.

This is so far my story...

Now you know!

Delusion backed up just by words is just delusion, but delusion backed up by relentless action... that's called faith, brother! Remember: Duty, Honor and Pride.

PS: And now I'm going to Bali, I arrive 14th of July of this 2025. I guess I'll see you guys there... I'm looking forward to meet you all.

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