One thing I wish someone had told me before I started holding circles…

People don’t come back because your meditation was perfect. They don’t come back because your playlist was magical. They don’t even come back because of cacao.

They come back because of how they felt in the room. Safe. Seen. Not rushed. Not judged. Not “managed.”

Although I can be a bit of a control freak at times…. 😬

When I first started, I thought I had to create something impressive.

Now I know my real job is to create something safe and steady.

That means:

– arriving early and setting the space properly

– thinking about how people walk into the room

– how they sit

– how they settle

– how they leave

The transitions matter more than the technique. Honestly? I spend as much time preparing the energy of the room as I do planning what I’m actually going to say.

And here’s the bit most new facilitators miss: Small circles build strong facilitators.

Start with 5 people.

Learn how the space breathes.

Learn how you breathe in it.

Learn what silence feels like when you’re holding it.

Big circles can come later.

Trust grows in small rooms first.

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