Oct '25 • General discussion
The 3 Phases of Transformation I Discovered (The Hard Way)
After losing Rudy in 2018, I spent seven years rebuilding my life from the ground up.
As a PMP who's managed billion-dollar projects, I naturally started looking for a framework—a roadmap for this journey. But nothing existed that combined the emotional reality of grief with the strategic action needed to rebuild.
So I created one.
During my transformation, I: ✨ Created frameworks to navigate grief strategically ✨ Started my own Project Management consulting firm as an Owner's Representative ✨ Became a real estate investor building generational wealth ✨ Wrote a book to help others on this journey ✨ Turned my pain into something beautiful
Here are the 3 Phases I discovered:
PHASE 1: SHATTERED 💔 This is the crisis moment. Your world has fallen apart. You're in survival mode—just trying to get through each day. This phase isn't about "fixing" anything. It's about acknowledging the pain, allowing yourself to grieve, and finding safe spaces to fall apart.
Key mindset: "It's okay to not be okay."
PHASE 2: SURRENDERED 🙏 This is where you stop fighting reality and start accepting it. You surrender the illusion of control. You realize you can't bring back what was lost, but you CAN choose what comes next. This is where faith, support systems, and small strategic steps begin. This is where I started my consulting firm, invested in real estate, and began writing.
Key mindset: "I can't control what happened, but I can control what I do now."
PHASE 3: SOARING 🦅 This is transformation. You're not just surviving—you're thriving. You've rebuilt your identity, discovered new strengths, and created a life you actually love. The pain doesn't disappear, but it becomes something beautiful—a source of purpose, wisdom, and impact.
Key mindset: "My pain has become something beautiful."
This became the foundation for The Phoenix Protocol—my signature coaching framework for high-achieving women navigating major transitions.
Where are you in these phases right now? Be honest—there's no judgment here. Healing isn't linear.
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