1. Something that I give my partner grace for in her matrescence: when there are issues beyond my control that are taken out on me, I try to understand that there are issues beyond me and that I don’t need to make it about me. Mommy guilt: gently nudging and asking her to go out to brunch or other meals without forcing it, an open-ended offer to do so. 2. A societal expectation that I think weighs on her in her matrescence: Mommy guilt of feeling that everyone is judging her for what our kids look like, act like; breastfeeding and the ups/downs that come with it, along with the inability to be away from our infant for more than a couple of hours, that she has to lose weight quickly after giving birth. • 3. A privilege I experience in becoming a father rather than going through matrescence: I do not have a baby inside or attached to me for the last 6 years, and my body has only changed due to what I’ve done (eating or exercising). My weight hasn’t fluctuated by 30% while I physically carried a child inside me, and my internal organs have never moved. My clothes still fit, I can still buy the same clothes, nobody will judge the clothes I wear based on how many kids I have. Others won’t judge me based on how my kids look or act.

1. Kin Keeping I do with my family: Texting/calling both sides of family, sending birthday texts, updates, planning holidays. 2. Kin Keeping I do in my career: Relationships with long-term customers, new customers, texting/emailing/calling. 3. Kin Keeping with my friends: Sending pictures of kids, asking how they’re doing, scheduling calls, inviting friends over for games. 4. Kin Keeping my partner does with their family: Calls/texts with her family and mine, managing relationship with her mom, 5. Kin Keeping my partner does in their career: Keeping up relationships with her colleagues, classmates, and former colleagues. • 6. Kin Keeping my partner does with friends: Texting/calling them, birthday messages + videos, planning events at our house, coordinating events at friends’ homes, planning trips with other families, sharing/taking pictures.

1. Care Labor I do at home: Making sure toddlers are fed, trying to balance the load that my wife feels day to day, week to week. 2. Care Labor I do in career: Customers’ journeys and ensuring that they’re getting their professional needs met from our company. 3. Care Labor my partner does at home: All aspects of infant care, + making sure the toddlers are fed, warm, safe, adequately entertained, eating enough, communicating with each other, making sure school forms are signed and ready. • 4. Care Labor my partner does in career: All aspects of how her patients are feeling, from going into the hospital to leaving.

1. Research / Educational Labor I do at home: Food prep/nutrition research, learning how other kids are developing quickly, researching what sports are learned at what age. 2. Research / Educational Labor I do in career: Customer stories, teaching myself new software tools, staying up to date on legal industry + trends + general technology. 3. Research / Educational Labor my partner does at home: Researching how/when to go on vacations, how to afford them, what schools the kids go to, what the kids learn at home, their extra curricular activities, experiences, our family’s experiences/outings. • 4. Research / Educational Labor my partner does in career: Continuing education and credentialing.

1. Cognitive Labor I do at home: Cleaning/organizing the kitchen/living areas, deciding on meals, keeping track of the trash/diapers, how much food we have, figuring out what we need for a specific day/trip 2. Cognitive Labor I do in career: Planning for the quarter, strategies, tactics, planning outreach, preparing for calls. 3. Cognitive Labor my partner does at home: Keeping on top of calendars/events/social gatherings, making sure the kids have clothes that fit, preparing for birthdays, researching/planning vacations. • 4. Cognitive Labor my partner does in career: Looking at various career paths/options.