@Sylwia Kuchenna yes they are heart ❤️ Thank you I appreciate all your help.

@Sylwia Kuchenna when I reflected on the questions deeper I actually came up with my kids not listening to me triggers me because I feel like they don't care about me and because I don't feel like enough already as a person then because of all of that I feel like I'm a bad mom. I still don't know if that is the bottom of the trigger or not. Do I keep asking what's under that until nothing else comes out or is the idea to just see that there's a belief under everything or in my case several beliefs stemming from my kids not listening and me making that mean something?

This is definitely a new light on triggers. Before this class I looked at them as bad. Today I see they are data!

@Sylwia Kuchenna Thank you

@Sylwia Kuchenna This class is fantastic!! Life changing. Finally for the first time ever I am learning why I do this, self compassion for doing it, how it's showing up now, self compassion for myself now, the pattern, and how to change our path and actually heal. Most classes give you bits and pieces and no real change steps. You are creating something that people don't need to spend years searching for, you have it all in 1 place. It's like here's the journey, heres the tools, here's the answers, now you do the work that actually needs done not what you or your neighbor or someone told you might help. You are ending the rabbit hole searches and constant hunt for something or because nothing is working and nothing ever changes. Your are also helping end the trauma we may be unintentionally inflicting on our family by helping us too. I'm so greatful for this opportunity to stop intellectualizing and start healing as it appears I've just been spending all this time for past few years in protection mode when I thought I was healing. So now I hopefully can start healing finally thank you to you ❤️ 💜

@Sylwia Kuchenna I didn't realize this is actually what I have been doing for a very long time. I can see I'm stuck in learning mode and my body and brain are not connected. I am working on my body in small increments through somatics, yoga and breathing and completely separately learning with my brain and taking notes. I definitely need to learn how to connect the 2 together. Is there a process to integrate the mind body and soul like a specific steps I need to follow each day? Because in my mind I see them separately and am disconnected and unsure how to reconnect them. I want to learn and feel at the same time. I can see I avoid now and distract myself from feeling by always doing, learning, staying busy. I understand that the feeling you said growing up it was not the problem it was being alone with it that was. However if we don't have a support system now we are still alone with it. Is there a way to still work through this without support? Is there a way to show our adult selves it's ok to be alone now it's not the same as then? I definitely do not process things and glad we will learn how to process this all in coming classes. If we are always numbing out the feeling and avoiding , then when a feeling does arise how do we stay with it and not auto push it down, so how I guess do I stop the pattern from running in the moment or even recognize the feeling?

This class about shame was very supportive. I found the shame addiction so interesting. I can see why we can get stuck there. It feels empowering to say this isnt my truth. I got more hope as we move through that I can change and heal this and undo it. Although a process it is one I'm grateful to have awareness about.

@Sylwia Kuchenna thank you