If your questions relates to a partner, it is a very deep trauma that they have to choose to heal (unlikely) it's possible, but unlikely, don't wait around or try to help, it will only hurt more. For me, I found that that partner was shining a light on my own narcissistic tendencies, it took me 6 years to see that (and that was 6 years of being divorced, which I believed helped because I had my own space and life, where I was safe and could process this). Hope it helps PS. What a great way to get points!