@Roxanne Hedman Hill

@Terra Holston

@Krista Brea Yes it is so pretty! @Gina Trigo is very talanted. <3

Believe

@Karina Sharp

@Karina Sharp Well, then you shall have one more :)

There is a sentence I keep coming back to, and it took me a long time to be able to hold both halves of it at the same time. It is not your fault. And it is still your responsibility. Most people can manage one half comfortably. Some of us are very good at the first part, at understanding exactly how we ended up here, who did what, what we were handed, what we never got to choose. That understanding is real and it matters. It also has a way of quietly becoming a place to live rather than a place to pass through. Others are very good at the second half. Straight to responsibility, no detour. That one looks like strength from the outside and it often is, but it usually comes with a private habit of blaming yourself for things that were never yours to begin with. What I have slowly worked out is that the two halves answer completely different questions. Fault is a question about the past, and it has a correct answer that you can look at plainly. Responsibility is a question about what happens next, and it has no correct answer at all, only a choice. Once you see that they are different questions, holding both stops feeling like a contradiction. It stops being a fight you are having with yourself, and starts being two separate things you can put down in different places.

@Krista Brea Hmm never thought about that, but who knows in the future. So many books to write and so little time. 🙂