Why I no longer say “love is love”
Here’s why I no longer say “love is love”: For the longest time, I used stories about my life to “educate” straight folks and cis folks (and yt folks, but we can talk about that another time) I’d share precious anecdotes: “look at my husband doing lovely, mundane things - yup, he’s trans, and gosh darn it, he’s a person just like you!” “Look at us - a Queer Woman of Color and a white trans guy doing life together: we love each other, just like cis-het couples do!!” “LOVE IS LOVE!” But then I realized - through the work I do - that most dominant-identity people are socialized to only feel comfortable with marginalized people when they find a way to relate to us; when they notice “sameness.” In this paradigm...difference is treated like a social threat. “BUT look at how UN-different you are!” becomes a way to avoid looking that in the eye. So every time I tried to prove how relatable we were, I was feeding that pattern. Upholding and enabling it through my own actions. And giving that message to MYSELF. So that’s why I’ve stopped saying “love is love.” And replaced it with things like: Difference is sacred. Dignity is universal. This is who I f*cking am. I’m not asking for your approval. Happy Pride, fam. Stay bold and true. Meera ✊🏽🏳️🌈 https://www.facebook.com/share/1CuP5GeXuA/ ______________________________ I'll add that plenty of racist people say they "love" Black people. So I willadd that my list of reasons not to say love is love, too.