I'm a mental trainer and psychological counsellor working in the mountain biking industry, leveraging this sport to guide my clients to find their authenticity, improve their mental health and gain confidence through combining skills training with mental tools. As I'm always looking for new inspiration, I found Doug's method and I'm here to learn, exchange thoughts and practice! Loving the exchange until now, Roxy

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I had an insight today I wanted to share here. Sex is natural and easy. But I’ve started to realize that many couples (mine included) confuse sex with intimacy. We expect that if we’re physically close, we’ll feel emotionally close. But here’s the problem: real intimacy comes from emotional safety. And most of us don’t know how to create that for our partner. Instead, we expect it from them. So each partner sits back, waiting to “feel safe.” Each fight or cold silence is really a cry for safety that never gets answered. I can’t help but wonder if this is one of the root causes of dead bedrooms: sex without emotional validation feels empty, and over time the desire disappears. Has anyone else felt this in their relationship?