We went a year and a half without talking due to her request that she needed time. We have been reconnecting for the last nine months. I shared with her my wrongdoing and expectations and how she might not feel that I always loved her. We made huge breakthroughs. I received an email today that she has not been honest with me and she has regressed and is falling back into her old cycles of negative self talk and panic attacks and feeling like I’m controlling her life, yet the only thing I can think of is that she committed to meeting our friends who were in town from Arizona and she backed out at the last minute, and I was so disappointed yet I didn’t say that to her, but I’m sure she felt it. I have been following the seven no Essentials and I am just broken. She said she will email me once a month but I’m not to reach out to her. Her birthday is in June and she doesn’t want to see me, but it’s OK for me to give her presence through her grandma. She just learned that I am engaged and she told me she was so happy for me and congratulated me, but now she said that wasn’t true. I am floundering and trying to figure out what I did wrong and what I could’ve changed. I know that I can’t control her, but my mama heart is just breaking. She said she still loves me and appreciates me but she feels obligated to have a relationship with me and she wants to do that out of desire and not obligation. She’s only 23 and I feel like she’s so confused. As I write this, I think that I just need to keep working on myself and be patient with her. The time and distance apart scares me.

I put in practice the information from module one this past weekend with my oldest son I can honestly say what a complete difference it has made. I wasn’t peppering him with questions or trying to manage his life and instead we had such a peaceful and relaxing visit, and I can tell that he felt very heard and accepted. We went to get some ice cream and on the way he picked me up in his car and when I put down the visor on the passenger side, some paper fell out. I went to put it back and he asked me to take a look at it here it was a letter I had written him telling him how much I loved him several years ago, as well as as a list of positive attributes I had wrote about him and given him many years ago. It was such a blessing to see that and know that he treasures that and looks at frequently.

I learned that if you go into the classroom section and scroll all the way to the bottom, you can find the past recordings. @Bill Robison thank you for this tip and for taking the time to talk with me yesterday. I appreciate you!

This is the first Couple Class with Bill. It is so insightful and will give you much to consider. You don't have to have your spouse participate to learn and grow in this area. Remember, it only takes one person to change a relationship and you can be the one!