Ever wonder why you react certain ways to stress or what actually helps you feel calm? This interactive worksheet helps you map your unique nervous system patterns and build better self-awareness. What it is: A comprehensive self-assessment tool based on polyvagal theory that helps you understand your body's stress responses and regulation strategies. It covers everything from physical tension patterns to emotional triggers to what genuinely helps you feel safe and grounded. How to use it: - Set aside 15-20 minutes in a quiet space - Fill it out honestly - there are no right or wrong answers - Use the rating scales, checkboxes, and text fields to capture your current experience - Your responses automatically save as you go - Print or save as PDF when complete for future reference How it helps: - Increases body awareness - Learn to recognize early stress signals before they escalate - Identifies your unique patterns - Discover what specifically triggers you and what actually works to calm you down - Creates a personalized regulation plan - Walk away with concrete strategies tailored to your nervous system - Builds self-compassion - Understand that your responses are your nervous system trying to protect you This isn't about fixing yourself - it's about understanding how you're wired so you can work WITH your nervous system instead of against it. Knowledge is the first step toward better emotional regulation and resilience. Give it a try and see what you discover about yourself. 💙

I want you to know that the patterns you learned in childhood show up in all your adult relationships. You're not broken. You're not too much. You're exactly where you need to be in your healing journey. Your breakthrough is possible. Your healing matters. YOU matter. 💙

Attachment theory helps us understand how we connect with others, especially in close relationships. It’s shaped by early experiences and shows up in how we handle closeness, conflict, and emotional needs. When left unexamined, our attachment style can quietly sabotage connection. Causing us to pull away, chase love, fear abandonment, or shut down when things get real. The 4 main styles: 🧘‍♂️ Secure: Trusts easily, communicates needs, comfortable with closeness. You might say “I feel safe being myself in a relationship.” 💓 Anxious: Craves reassurance, fears being left or not enough. “I worry they’ll leave if I don’t show up perfectly.” 🛑 Avoidant: Prioritizes independent, uncomfortable with vulnerability or relying on others. “I need space when emotions get intense.” ⚡️ Fearful-Avoidant: Wants closeness but fears rejection or hurt. “I push people away even when I want connection.” 🤔 What is attachment theory and why should I care? If you're unfamiliar with attachment theory, it was created by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth. It explains how our early caregiver relationships shape how we connect with others throughout life. Attachment wounds form when our childhood needs for safety and consistency aren't met. These experiences create unconscious patterns for how we approach relationships, whether we cling or withdraw, seek intimacy or fear it. 👉 Here's what matters: there's nothing wrong with you if you don't have secure attachment. You're not broken. The good news is we can all learn to become more securely attached. If you're caught in cycles of push and pull, constantly longing for more connection while fearing it, exploring your attachment style can transform your relationships. Learning secure attachment patterns changes how you experience love and intimacy. What’s your attachment style? If you're not sure about your attachment style, drop 'SECURE' in the comments and I'll send you a quick assessment to help you discover yours and explore how to bring more calm, clarity, and confidence to your relationships.

There’s a place between where you are and where you’re meant to be. It burns. The burn is not pain for pain’s sake, it’s resistance rising as your old self begs you to stay. Most do. They reach the edge, feel the heat, and retreat. They choose comfort. They choose familiar. And life… just carries on. But some, the few, the bold, they step in. Into the ache. Into the unraveling. Into the forge. Not to be destroyed, but to be remade. In this sacred furnace, identity melts, and essence reveals itself. This is not suffering. This is alchemy. And those who stay, who breathe through the flames, emerge not just changed, but transformed. Gold, not because they avoided the fire, but because they walked through it. So if you’re here, standing at the edge, feeling the heat rise, this is your sign. Step in. Let the fire cleanse what no longer serves you. Let it refine what is already within you. This is the way through. Not around. Not above. Through. The burn is not your enemy. It’s your becoming. Embrace it and watch healing, strength, and truth rise from the flame. — If you’re in the midst of a fire and long for a more profound, fulfilling life, characterized by calm, clarity, and confidence, you don’t have to face this journey alone. This community offers support to meet you where you are at. Including 1-on-1 coaching, self paced lessons, and group meetings, to support you on your path to healing and personal growth. Onward, together!

Being here on this journey is not only a privilege, it also gives you the permission to start to open that prison door to the full, beautiful life you deserve.. 🧚 🗝️